Teeth
One of the few things my parents really did right was spring for braces when I was 12 – 14. I have a great smile (my LA ex called them “TV teeth”) — not too toothy (think Denzel), but just right. I think I’ve won over some women just from my smile.
What I don’t understand is why other people my own age have terrible, terrible teeth — I’ve been on dates with women who make mid five figures – to 6 figures and they have the teeth of a hobo. I mean, for about 5 grand and a year to two years that could totally be taken care of. And there’s Invisaline too! Hell, Tom Cruise got braces!
I mention this because there are people aware of this problem and try and bait and switch you on dating sites. For instance, this attractive blond last night wrote me a lovely, lovely personalized letter. She referenced a lot of things in my own profile and was funny….and then I clicked on her pictures.
Now, she had SEVEN pictures. Five of them were close up of her face. Great. BUT she was smiling that closed-mouth Dustin Hoffman smile in ALL five.
And in the last two she was smiling open mouthed, but it was far away AND blurry. In the one last blurry one, I could tell something bad was going on — buck, horse-y teeth…
I hate to sound so judgemental, but it’s really the one thing I can’t get past look-wise (maybe like some women can’t get past the height thing)….
Plus, I don’t like the bait-and-switch aspect of it — she’s aware of the problem but hiding it from guys until it’s too late.
I don’t know if I should write back — she works at a studio 55+ hours a week so I might use that as my out…
March 29th, 2012 at 4:24 am
i guess we all have something superficial we cannot ignore. so i forgive you.
i am a woman like the one you described. not much dentist care as a child and today i do spend as much money as i can to get my teeth improved. unfortunately it is not enough. isn’t this some classicism? but again, we are all judgemental about something. i for example expect “good eyes”, big and interesting.
March 29th, 2012 at 5:35 pm
Thanks for commenting and I apologize if I offended you in any way (quite frankly, I thought only 2 people read my blog, but anyway)…like I stated, it might be analogous to women not want to date their same height or lower. I am 5’7 and really can’t do much about it (the 1 inch on my shoe helps exactly one inch)….it is the bait-and-switch aspect that bothers me more than the physical…
April 3rd, 2012 at 6:29 am
oh, you didn’t offend me in any way. don’t worry about it. there are even some guys (and women) who find my “working class” teeth charming as opposed to neat hollywood teeth. was at the dentist’s yesterday, btw.
i am as it happens a 5’4” and have never cared about a man’s height. even had a boyfriend who was a tiny bit shorter than i, if you can imagine that.
i don’t understand what you mean by “bait and switch” in this context. english is not my first language.
April 3rd, 2012 at 6:33 am
re-read your post. got what you meant by “bait and switch”. well… don’t we all “bait and switch” when looking for dates? what about push-up bras, dying hair, all those unlikely action sports no one has realisticly the time for? etc. etc. at least i look like my online pics.