Snark is Relationship Cancer (part 1)
I recently had a handful of dates (five!) with someone I met about 2, 3 weeks ago…she was petite, cute in a Plain Jane / mousey way, my age, had a normal job with normal hours, lived close enough, really good on paper.
And really good in person — we had a great first date — almost 2 hours long and she was pretty quick — we had nice banter and some good laughs.
I like a sharp girl, a little bit of snark — perfect for a first date. Keeps things lively. But we had some real talk about real things too so it was a nice balance.
The Snarky Redhead and I had that too (and look how that turned out). But this girl seemed nicer — seemed to have (and does have) a big heart.
But it became evident that the snark was overwhelming the ‘heart.’
The snarky comments began to get tiresome — and snarky texts really, really annoying.
Example: My b-day was coming up and she texted me “what’s your favorite food?”
I wrote back: “Hmmm…maybe ceviche?”
Her reply: “Ceviche? Really? That’s your favorite food? That’s the food you’d eat every day if you were trapped on a desert island?”
I was expecting that she was going to offer to take me to a ceviche place or offer to make it for me and this just put a bad taste in my mouth like when you drink from a carton and you think it’s milk, but then it’s O.J.
You like O.J., but your senses were rattled by the switch out. Getting this put me off a bit. It didn’t FEEL good.
I didn’t reply.
Then she got annoyed I didn’t reply and we had a talk about it.
Okay, good — we were communicating — I’m saying I don’t like to get snarky, negative texts for no reason and I need more heart and less snark. She said she’s both but will try and show more heart.
But it continued. (to be cont.)