In A Relationship
Been dating someone for 7 weeks. It’s going really well.
Met on Match (I wrote to her — she wrote back pretty quickly). Had a 90 minute first phone conversation (where she wasn’t doing dishes, riding her bike* or pumping gas and shit).
First date: She dressed up (wore an off the shoulder white wrappy top, did her hair and wore make-up — OMG!!!!) and let me kiss her on the mouth at the end of that first great date (she later said she saw “stars” and could have “floated to her car.”)
Didn’t / doesn’t play games. Is so warm. Is very complimentary. Is mucho affectionate. Is easy going. Is drama free. An easy laugher. Forgiving of my quirks / vocal tics (my frequent catch phases, imitating Denzel Washington). Has time to date someone (had 3 dates within two weeks, maybe less). Is not a Prickly. Isn’t obsessed with her cat/animal. Looked like her pictures.
Was on Match 3 weeks before I wrote to her. Was on Match in total 6 weeks before we went exclusive. With her looks and personality there’s no reason she had to be on Match for longer than 2 months to find someone (she went on a lot of dates too).
Had our first fight the other day after a trip to the mountains (see photo), but we worked it / toughed it out, talked it through, reflected on it, learned more about where my “red zone” was and are closer for it….
It’s new ground for me….something REAL.
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*Turns out she actually knows that woman — and says she’s CRAZY. And is afraid of her.
July 11th, 2012 at 8:09 am
But does she know you will be writing about her? You will be writing about her, right? RIGHT? You just can’t leave us hanging…
July 11th, 2012 at 10:06 am
Where did you guys go for your first date and how long did it last?
July 11th, 2012 at 10:11 am
To respect her privacy, I will prob. not be writing about her… she doesn’t know about the blog. I will prob. write about my growth or something.
July 11th, 2012 at 10:13 am
She is kinda on the organic side, so I took her to Real Food Daily in Santa Monica. I don’t remember — maybe an hour? A little more? I remember I had scheduled it before a nite class I was taking, so I had to leave like 6:40. I think we met at 4:15.
July 28th, 2012 at 7:28 am
I am very, very happy for you. You deserve a nice woman.
About dating and blogging…. In need to share my story. A while back I met a guy. Casually mentioned that I had a blog. Gave him no tips whatsoever about the name, etc…. After all, there are a million mom bloggers out there. Well, lo and behold, he found the damn thing and I spent a good two weeks doing damaging control.
Having been married for some 30 years he was shocked by my dating tales. LIttle did he know that was the tip of the iceberg.