Eleven months later….
In June of 2011, I had a date with a 29 year old petite, cute nerdy girl around the corner from her house. She was FUNNY — now, I don’t say that lightly. As a former stand up (and occasional depressed person), it’s a huge feat to make me laugh. And this girl did it often. We had a 1 hour and 45 minute coffee date that just flew by.
We went out a few days later and saw a comedy show also around the corner from her house and then kissed her car. Unfort., the mood was ruined by two assholes who kept driving past us with their brights on again and again.
I called for a third date….and nothing.
I was a bit surprised, but she seemed a little guarded, a little snarky, probably not ready for any kind of intimacy.
But she was funny. And I needed new friends.
So about a month or two later — I don’t remember, I wrote her a postcard (I was in her neighborhood and remembered the building where I dropped her off and jotted down the address one day) and said, “I know you don’t want a third date but you are the funniest person I’ve ever gone out with and seem to have a lot of quirky stuff in common, so if you ever want to see a movie to go to a weird art or comedy show, let me know. YOUR MAILMAN READ THIS” I wrote in big letters at the bottom.
That was probably late summer of 2011.
Then the other day I saw her on Match.com. I clicked on her profile and read it and then a day later I got this:
May 22nd, 2012 at 4:52 pm
Day late, dollar short, but that was big of her to apologize like that. I mean, she really owned it.
May 23rd, 2012 at 2:56 am
I applaud her for admitting to her wrong and apologizing. Very few people would do that. Most prefer to hid behind their screens and phones. So, even though it was disappointing how it ended, at least she admitted to her wrong.
May 23rd, 2012 at 10:00 am
What’s interesting is this time around is her 3rd — to my knowledge — time on Match (in a row) — I actually had written her before the time when she responded…. what i don’t understand is why she didn’t want to be friends / buddies?