Are you going on a date or the gym?
I had a e-harm date on Sunday which annoyed me a few levels.
First off, we had a lovely chat, she was a striking redhead (in her photos), a therapist, a good listener, good laugher. I was looking forward to it.
I call a few hours earlier to confirm we are still on. No response. (We had made the date the day before).
20 minutes before 3, I text “Heading out now” (no response).
Luckily, the coffee shop was no more than a 5 minute drive. It might have been 4. So if she stood me up, I could get back home pretty quick.
She shows up (on time) and she is dressed for the gym — jogging / workout outfit, big, Jackie O sunglasses, a big baseball hat (the kind you get free at charity event — it was even autographed by someone), running sneakers, no make up, all her lovely hair tucked under the cap.
Meanwhile, I’m wearing a banana republic sweater, dark new Levis, John Varvatos shoes, I shaved, I have stuff in my hair.
It made me feel that she DIDN’T GIVE A SHIT. Didn’t do a damn thing with her hair, didn’t put even lip gloss on. It made me feel not worth 3 minutes of prep. Hell, a nice blouse and nice jeans — even flip flops would have been okay.
Oh, and she NEVER took off the sunglasses. (I suggested it, but she refused)
She was gorgeous (under all the workout-I-don’t-care) and we had a nice time (and a great talk the night before), but she shook my hand and told me to “enjoy the book” I had with me as we parted.
She’s not on board, right?


April 12th, 2012 at 2:25 pm
NEXT! NEXT! NEXT!
She didn’t put effort into the first meeting. What happened to, “first impressions are lasting impressions”?
Hell, no, Dave she’s not on board…but do you really want to BE ON BOARD WITH THAT? And let me remind you…beauty fades. She’s a jerk.
If you have to question if someone is on board, the answer is NO. When someone likes you, you know it – because they show it.
NEXT!
April 12th, 2012 at 2:31 pm
I must admit, after 20+ years of dating and first dates her outfit prob ranks the highest in I-didn’t-give-a-shit. There were a couple others — one who showed up in a track suit, another in a men’s ratty undershirt and wouldn’t take off her sunglasses either, but the cheap baseball cap and no make up really flipped it to no. 1
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