Archive for January, 2011
A phrase that keeps coming up again and again as I scour through profiles is “No Games! OMG, No Games…”
It occurred to me that guys really don’t play games.
Guys only want 3 things from women:
- They want to fuck you.
- They want to friend you.
- They want you for their girlfriend/want to date you.
That’s it. We’re real black and white.
I think the problem is when women can’t tell the distinction what a man wants from them. Guy texts you at the last minute and asks you to come over after being MIA for 2 weeks? He wants to fuck you. He doesn’t want to date you. He’s not playing games — he’s not sending mixed signals — he’s sending ONE signal you are not reading. It’s not a green or red (although the light might have been at one time) — it’s a flashing yellow. What’s a flashing yellow mean? According to Allstate:Flashing yellow means proceed with caution. It’s an indication that there’s a dangerous intersection, congested road or another unusual traffic condition ahead.
- Slow down, approach with caution, and be ready to act accordingly
- Keep your eyes open and analyze the elements around you
- Concentrate on those that are an immediate safety threat
- Prepare to react to the unexpected action of others (vehicles or pedestrians)
- Take the time to observe every hazard, decide what to do about each, and react properly
You might come back at me and scream, “But he was so nice to me that weekend, said this, bought me that, texted this, did that at one time, seemed like he was interested, then not — just runs hot and cold.” And I’m going to tell you what I told a female friend when she cited a bunch of similar examples of game playing a guy she knew was doing. I said, “He’s not playing games. He’s an ASSHOLE.”
This is a guy who has a lot of options or he’s keeping his options open. More often than not, he’s devastatingly handsome (think Clooney when he was in ‘ER’) and to quote Greg Behrendt – he’s really not that into you. Guys know what’s acceptable and what’s good behavior and what’s not. Yeah, he’s really into you, but only WHEN HE wants to be. He doesn’t want to date you – if he did, he’d be more considerate of your time and feelings. He’s an asshole or a player.
Good guys don’t play games. We don’t send mixed signals.
Now a guy might be on the fence about you, like I’ve been recently with a few women. I just took it slow — didn’t promise too much and even kissed them once or twice. When after I didn’t feel anything (literally nothing) when our lips touched a couple times, I didn’t call them again. Now, I could be accused of playing games because I showed some initial interest and then went cold / MIA myself. And maybe I sent a friendly e-mail after our last encounter, but I didn’t ask them out again.