At the end of March, I had a date with a woman who had e-mailed me on Match.com a few weeks earlier saying ‘Aren’t you the laundromat marketing guy?’
Turns out we had spoken maybe 2 years ago — I vaguely remember not going out with her because she sounded snotty — something about how she owned properties in LA and, I, alas, was just a ‘renter’.
Anyway, we speak again, she sounded nicer and we meet for coffee.
I’m sitting outside and I see her approach — and her hair is pulled back super tight into a horrible little Gene Simmons bun on the top of her head. Why do women do this on first dates? Hair pulled back doesn’t even look good on actresses going to the Oscars!
She insists (doesn’t ask) that we sit inside, so I follow her in.
We sit and she starts talking about how much she loves the TV show ‘True Blood’. I mention I worked on the campaign. We talk very briefly about the ads. Then she talks about her website and that something in it / on it wasn’t “integrated”.
So, pretending to be interested, I ask, “What wasn’t integrated — the design?”
And she literally snaps: “NO — WE ARE NOT TALKING ABOUT DESIGN AND ADVERTISING ANYMORE. WE ARE TALKING ABOUT SOMETHING ELSE.“
Her tone was so sharp, it felt like needles on my skin. It took all my strength not to stand up and say “You know, I don’t like how you just spoke to me — I’m going to go.”
I should have, but I try and make a good impression, maintain some dignity even though the other person might be acting badly.
I never want to give the woman something that she can go back to her friends and and go “You wouldn’t believe what this crazy guy did on our date.” Especially since she knows my last name. Especially since LA is basically a small town.
What I did though was what a million girls have done to me — I just ‘checked out’ — just got complacent and humored her for the next 45 min. or so.