I have a buddy I met in a stand-up class about 10 years ago. A very handsome buddy. The guy’s 6’3, works as a trainer, super ripped, has a blinding smile, looks like Superman (He auditioned to be one of the new Supermans in the last 10 years and got real close), p/t models for Men’s Health and not only that, the guy’s a real sweetheart — from the Farm Belt, has an “Aw shucks” small-town charm, calls women “Ma’am”, any older guy “Sir”, not a mean bone in his body. He’s so handsome I stopped going to bars and bistros with him cause I was tired of waitresses always putting their number on our bills. (He’s such a nice guy, he kept insisting they were leaving their number for me.)
The problem is he has THE WORST GIRLFRIEND IN THE WORLD.
A bi-polar Narcissist he’s been dating — wait for it — for EIGHT YEARS. She’s (clinically) moody, treats him like a toy — plays nice / plays with him when she wants to, but if she doesn’t want to — whoa, watch out. She has a fierce temper and actually has been banned from his apartment building because of her outbursts (and for putting a number of holes in the apt. walls). She flirts with other guys and goes out with them on a “Don’t-Ask-Don’t-Tell” policy she’s instilled. They don’t live together, probably never will. He’s “in a relationship” on Facebook – her page says….”Single” (and interested in “Men”)
The tragedy is my buddy could HAVE ANYBODY. But due to his self-esteem issues (was a fat kid – hence the exercise and training), doesn’t think HE DESERVES ANY BETTER. So he stays in this semi-abusive relationship.